How is it different from the gay social scene?
Anyone can walk into a pub or club as these are public places. However, MEN is a group which allows gay men to socialise, make friends and if needs be, come to terms with their sexuality in a safe and supportive manner.
Confidentiality is a core value because:
- Potential new members need to be assured of complete confidentiality before they risk being open to others about their situation
- Existing members need total privacy for work, family and social reasons
We meet once or twice a month. There is one fixed meeting which lasts up to two hours with a coffee break in the middle. Before coffee existing members may speak about goings on in their life since the last meeting.
After coffee a speaker addresses a topic which is followed by a discussion or a chat. The content and tone can vary from the serious to the trivial but usually involves a good deal of humour.
Some times rather than a meeting we may go for a reasonably priced meal. We are always open to suggestions to make the group more interesting and relevant to our members.
Tell me more about the people who attend the group?
Gay men of all ages and from all walks of life are part of the group. Some are “out”, some are not. Either way each person is assured and must offer and mutual respect for everyone in the group. Some come to the group as they enjoy the meetings. Some attend as they are going through a rough time accepting their sexuality and others find the group a good way to start a night out.
How can it help me socially as a gay man?
As suggested already, the group is informal, friendly and social in nature. Lasting friendships have been made over the years as there is a great atmosphere of trust and acceptance in the group.
The meetings end around 10:30 p.m. and often members head off to for a drink or a chat to other venues (gay or straight).
What if I’m nervous about contacting the group?
There is no doubt that joining a group like MEN can be a difficult step for many men. However the group is a very safe group because you retain control. We understand how difficult it can be to take the first step. When you call or email us you won’t be asked anything about who you are, or where you’re from, or where you might work.
If you are worried about meeting a group of strangers, we ensure that you can be met before you attend by two members at a time that suits you so that we can help you deal with any worries you might have.
Taking the plunge – how do I contact MEN?
You can contact us by phone or email. This can help you find out more about the group before maybe deciding to meet someone from the group for a chat.
Our email address is: This e-mail address is being protected from spambots. You need JavaScript enabled to view it and we can be contacted by phone on 087 1363615 (Tuesday & Thursday evening from 7-9:30 p.m.)
Some feedback from our members:
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“My work is sensitive and high profile. Initially I was very nervous when I joined the group but I gradually relaxed when I realised that I could trust others in MEN. I’ve made new friends and enjoyed the meetings and the social side. I’d recommend MEN to anyone in a similar position to me.” – Michael. |
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“Before I joined MEN I just did not know where to turn. I used to ring the phone number and would hang up as soon as the phone was answered. When I finally built up the courage to speak I was met with great support and encouragement. My first meeting was a revelation – I didn’t know what to expect – but everyone seemed so “normal” and good humoured. It was a major turning point in my life and my development as a gay man!” – John |
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“The group has been very useful for me. In the times of my life when I have found things difficult I have found support and friendship. In the times when life has been good I have had people to share and enjoy that with too.” - Paul
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